Let’s Talk About Lube Baby

One of my biggest pet peeves working in a sex shop was hearing people say, “Oh, I’m already soo wet I don’t need that stuff,” or ” I’m young; that stuff’s for old people.” First, of Ewww, keep that toxic ageist crap to yourself. Lube is great! Lube keeps the party going all night long. I love Lube. Lube makes everything better. As I’ve gotten older now, my first year into my 30s, yay, I feel like Lube is even more crucial. There’s so much you can play around with when you use lube. So the fact that there’s this stigma around it bums me out because people are missing out on a lot simply because they’re learning some weird crap from others. So let’s break it down and know a bit about the different kinds of lube and how they can enhance your sex life, whether you’re with a partner or not so that you can make the most out of your time alone in quarantine. 

We can break down lubricants into (1) water-based, (2) silicone, (3) oil, and (4) hybrids. Your flavored lubricants will always be water-based because silicone destroys flavors…… yuk.


Water-based lubricants are your essential go-to’s. They are literally water-based. This is the most basic of the lube families and should be in everyone’s bathroom cabinet.

  • Usually based with glycerin or plant cellulose.
  • Compatible with all toy materials
  • If you’ve never use lubricant, your safest bet is to go with a water-based lubricant. There are many options, and you can try out some really fantastic flavors that will always be water-based.
  • Water-based lubricants will also have the weakest stimulations. By that, I mean if you get a cooling lubricant or a warming lubricant that are water-based, they will have the latest sensation.
  •  The benefit of water-based lubricant is that if you don’t like the feeling or don’t like the texture, you can always wash it away with some soap and water, and it’ll glide right off.


Silicone-based lubricants are a great lube if you’re just using body parts or specific materials. They’re also the best, in my humble opinion, for any anal intercourse that does not involve a toy that isn’t glass or steel. 

  • Contrary to popular belief, silicone lubricant will not degrade your latex condoms because that is what they are lubricated with. 
  • Your silicone lube is going to be your best friend if you’re having any fun in the water, and it doesn’t evaporate as quickly as water-based lubricants. 
  • This form of lubricant will be nice and slippery than its water counterpart, but it will not come in any flavors. 
  • Stay away from silicone lubricant if you are using any toys because silicone lube can disintegrate material, especially in lower-quality jelly toys. If you are going to use a toy, make sure that it is a very high-quality silicone. I’m looking at you Fun Factory and womanizer or We-Vibe. Or if you’re using any glass or Steel toys, silicone is the way to go. 
  • An enjoyable combination is if you’re using a warming or cooling silicone anal lubricant and you’re using a glass toy. 

No. 3 Oil Based

  • Oil-based Lubes are a tricky business. I will 100% suggest that you do not use 100% refined extra virgin blah blah blah coconut oil or olive oil or jojoba oil. If it’s an oil and is not designated for personal use, please do not use it.
  • Why? Because none of these are tested to be compatible with the pH balance in vagina having people. This means if you are a person who is prone to yeast infections or any vaginal infections, this will throw it off in a gnarly way. That means keep your coconut oil on your hair and not inside your vag.
  • Do not, I repeat, do not use baby oil as a lubricant. It has a ton of additives and fragrances that will throw your pH off. That is meant for babies. It is awful for you. The same goes for unscented massage oils; they are not formulated for personal use and may result in adverse side effects like vaginal infection, yeast infection, and allergic reactions. 
  • There’s a reason that lubricants go through such rigorous testing before they are put on the market. 
  • Oil-based lubricants will also stain your sheets and degrade the integrity of latex condoms and mess up your toy materials.
  • Suppose you are hell-bent on having an oil-based lubricant because you like that slick feeling; go with the next and final type of lubricant: hybrids!

No.4 Hybrid Based

  • Hybrids are great if you want the best of both worlds. Most hybrid lubricants are a blend of water and silicone bases so they give you that slick feel of silicone with the ability to wash it off a little easier, like water-based. 
  • For the most part, they are easy to use with your toys and safe to use with condoms. There are many great lubricants on the market now that are hybrids that are infused with aloe or with coconut oil. 
  • Hybrids are fun to play with, and if you want something that has certain essential ingredients but you don’t want to use something that’s not tested for personal use, find a hybrid that has an essence of that. 
  • Pink has a great hybrid that is a cream consistency that feels great on your skin. 
  • Sliquid has another infused with aloe, so it’s lovely and nourishing for the skin, and if you are a ride or die for coconut oil, System Jo has got you covered. 

System Jo has a fabulous coconut oil-infused lubricant. It is a hybrid that blends water-based lubricant and some coconut oil safely, allowing you to experience some of the slicknesses of coconut oil without any adverse side effects. I will leave a link down for it here. Be warned this coconut oil-based lubricant does not taste like coconut. It has a pleasant tropical smell, but please do not eat it because it tastes nasty.

There’s a lube for everyone so I always adjust getting a bottle of each kind so that you have them in your kit. You never know when you’re going to need to reach for one. Do not fear lubricant it is your best friend and it will make your toys feel better, it will make your body on body intercourse feel better and it will make sure that the party goes on for way longer. 

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